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Our life is perfect.

There, I said it.

Now before you give me that look, or dismissively click this article closed, hear me out.

There’s something that’s been bugging me since December. A friend of mine commented on facebook about a Christmas card she’d received that “made her sick”. The card was of a happy, smiling, perfect family. It disgusted her because she thought it was fakey. I don’t actually think she was talking about us (in fact, I’m not sure I sent a card to her), but it was the thought that got to me. Not that she was being jealous or mean, but that she truly didn’t think that kind of happiness was possible. Life is full of imperfection, I totally get it. There are hundreds of blog posts and articles floating around lately that are practically screaming that it’s okay to not be perfect and that it’s courageous to admit that we’re not. And I agree. I even wrote my own article about struggles with expectations and a cold reality. We were in the depths of new parent hell. Sleep deprived, overwhelmed, and disconnected from each other. We felt alone, scared, frustrated. We had some hard times. But we made it through.

Aside from actual hardship, I think we let ourselves get caught up in a societal perception of perfection, and the pursuit of an impossible ideal. But you know what? Maybe it IS perfect. And maybe we don’t realize it because we’re not paying attention. Or maybe we don’t accept it because we don’t think we deserve it. Take a look. See the good. Believe it.

Our life? Right now, is pretty fucking perfect. There, I said it again. We feel like us again. Our baby boy is about to turn two, and we are crazy in love with him. Every day he amazes and surprises us. He grows and changes, he learns and questions, and he develops his sense of self and independence a little more. He’s goofy, calculating, and delightful in every way. He brings so much light into our lives. He makes us look up and smile at each other with astonishment and pride. I put my head on Jamie’s shoulder. He squeezes my hand. We made it. We feel like humans again, like partners again. We feel more connected and in love than ever. We appreciate each other in a whole new way, and have a renewed sense of forever. It’s a wondrous feeling of love, security, and happiness.

So excuse me for being unabashedly joyful.

k.holly christmas card

These smiles are real. Kisses, real. These happy Facebook statuses and sweet little instagrams are the truth. These three people are the happiest trio you’ll find.

It’s perfect. And it’s all in the heart. Is my manicure perfect? Nope. Is our house magazine worthy? Never. Are we caught up on our to-do lists? Ha! Good one. But you know what? That stuff doesn’t matter as much. It’s not part of our definition of perfect. Perfect to us is making coffee for each other in the morning. Perfect is reading books together in our son’s room at bedtime. Perfect is pinching each other’s butts when we walk by. Perfect is those shared smiles and memories. Perfect is that tiny little high-five. Perfect is family dinner at our small round table. Perfect is being lazy together. Perfect is being adventurous and spontaneous together. Perfect is laughter. Perfect is gratitude. Perfect is us. Perfect is real.

Right now, our families are healthy. Our friends are hitting milestones and celebrating life alongside and with us. Our careers are successful and we have enough time off to enjoy life. This kind of perfection can be fleeting, and I am hyper aware of that. Life moves quickly, and things can change in an instant.ย  So let’s hold onto these moments, savor them, and share our joys. Cheer and cherish when someone counts their blessings, and cradle each other through trials and failures. It’s all part of life. Highs, lows, heartbreak. Embrace it. All of it. And in the wise words of my father in law, Take Care of Each Other.


Images by our friends Ben + Mindy of Studio 6.23

  • Rachel - This made me cry tears of love and joy! You guys inspire me. Not only that, but seeing your perfect pictures and reading your perfect posts helps this bf feel even more connected to my friends I call family. What a perfect definition of perfect! Love you three! (Lexi too!) ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • kerri banyas - So beautiful friend! Love your your heart and your adorable little family! xoxoReplyCancel

  • ashley - I love it. So flippin’ sweet. ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Alyssa - Well said!!!ReplyCancel

  • Rhiannon - Goodness I just adore you, my friend. And can we just state for the record that your legs are perfect? ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the most truthful and real post ever xoxoReplyCancel

Oh man, I am terrible at updating my personal blog lately! Here’s a quick one of Mr. Adorable, in the bathtub. Love him!

baby in a bathtub

For the love of Frye boots. Can’t I just have them all?

brown leather riding boots FRYE

Left to right, all by FRYE: Paige Tall Riding Boot (in Dark Brown Burnished Leather), Melissa Button Back Zip (In Dark Brown Antique Soft Full Grain), Jane Stitch 14L (In Redwood Tumbled Full Grain Leather), and Melissa Button (in Cognac Soft Vintage Leather). All shown in size 7.5.

  • Amanda - i have the ones on the left!

    I didn’t know you were a frye boots lover?ReplyCancel

  • Amanda - I love them all.
    Keep them all girl ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • malinda - well if it were me i would chooooooooooose the ones facing backwards lolReplyCancel

  • Monica - They all look good. What color are those Melissa Button Back zip?ReplyCancel

  • Morgan - So, which ones did you keep? ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Karyn - I love the Melissa Button in Cognac. These boots look so cute with skirts and tights in the Fall and the cognac brown is also going to be trendy in Spring! It’s a win, win!

    Check out if you still haven’t found your Frye boots! We have a great selection now on sale! Love your blog by the way! Great photos! ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Kristen - It was a hard decision! I loved them all for different reasons. In the end, I chose based on comfort. Nothing compared to the Paige Tall Riding Boot, they’re SUPER comfortable. And they were my hubby’s favorite too ๐Ÿ™‚ Win-win!ReplyCancel

  • kytt - what color are the paige tall riding boots?ReplyCancel

  • Kristen - Hello Kytt! The Paige Tall Riding Boot is the Dark Brown Burnished Leather. I got them here: They come with a wax coating on them, don’t be alarmed! It wipes off ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Hannah - Ooh can u please post a photo of you wearing the Paige riding boot? I’m trying to decide. I’m 7.5 too, but buying online so can’t try any of them on! Thanks so much xReplyCancel

I love this boy. So much.

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Heart. Melt. Those baby blues!!! That diaper butt!

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